I spoke to my abusive mum recently. She’d said she felt like I didn’t like her, so I thought I’d tell her how I felt, outline what she put me through. I’m not sure if it was the best idea. She apologised but she also kept repeating “I’m only human”. I’m also human, but I can’t imagine ever doing to someone what she did to me. I don’t know. I don’t feel like it’s a valid reason. I’m not sure how to feel. If her only reasoning is that she’s “only human” is it enough? I don’t feel like it is but I know I won’t get anything more from her, and I feel like she expects it to be all good between us now. Would that be enough for you? How do I move on or at least move forward?

  • lurch (he/him)@sh.itjust.works
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    2 days ago

    I’m personally a big fan of not speaking to abusive persons, ignoring them and not thinking or caring about what they might think or how they might feel. It’s irrelevant.

    • JayJLeasOP
      2·
      2 days ago

      I rely on them right now for my housing, but I also don’t think I’m strong enough. How did you find the strength?

      • flicker@lemmy.dbzer0.comEnglish
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        2 days ago

        I’m not the person you responded to, but I found the strength when I realized I’d rather have a hole where her abuse was, and grieve, than keep having to live the stress and drama over and over and over.

        It sucked. Still does, 20 years later. But it was so much healthier for me in the long run.